OFTEN TIMES, IT SEEMS AS THOUGH OUR MIND IS A PROJECTOR TO HOW OUR LIVES PLAY OUT.
I hear people call themselves “lazy” when they are unable to perform the necessary actions to lose weight or reach their goal. As a result, they behave lazyy and fulfill this projection of who they think they are.
It’s important to look at our “self-critic” straight in the face and untangle the lies that we tell ourselves. That is why my next response to anyone who calls themselves an unpleasant adjective is always, “why do you think that way about yourself?” Perhaps you feel that you are lazy because you’re exhausted from all your responsibilities, or you haven’t been able to figure out how to adapt to the change that is new in your life.
These are all acceptable reasons to be “lazy” and once we replace the word “lazy” with “overwhelmed,” we can start working on ways to resolve it.
Practice becoming patient with yourself to create that space that allows your self critic to back off so that you can understand what is really going on.
Another good example of this circumstance is when you go to the gym for the first time after a long time and you feel that everyone is looking at you. You convince yourself that they’re all saying critical comments and eventually you talk yourself out of doing the workout that you wanted to do in the first place. Soon enough, you stop going to the gym altogether. This is a common cycle of self- criticism and how it evolves into your very own reality. We make up what everyone else is thinking of us, projecting our own thoughts of ourselves on them, and then somehow we manage to convince ourselves that this is the truth.
Eventually, we start living this self-proclaimed truth.
Reflect on what you feel is the most descriptive adjective that describes the reason why you cannot reach a certain goal. Did you think of an adjective that is critical or did you think of an adjective that is constructive? If you thought of something critical, catch your lie and change it to constructive. “I got fat because I’m lazy and don’t cook when I have time” vs “I’ve gained weight because I haven’t made time for myself. My life has had some change that I have not adapted to yet and I spend the majority of my time giving energy to other responsibilities. When I have a spare moment, I would rather rest.”
This is empathy, when we choose to not turn away from that understanding voice in ourselves.
Without empathy, we become our harshest critics and strip ourselves of all the confidence that we needed in order to move forward. If we take the time to turn inward and get to know what the real answer is to why we cannot get to where we want to go, we will be able to find empathy and self-love. Focusing on the things we lack will give them life! Listen to your thoughts as well as what you say out loud, change them, and then your diet will change too.
3 Steps to Silencing The Self-Critic
Relax, think about what you could accomplish with the time and energy you currently spend worrying about your body and appearance.
Come up with a mantra for the moments when you lose your sense of self, so that you can shift back into focus.
Before you go to sleep, praise your body for how much it has allowed you to do throughout the day.