Have you struggled with explaining PCOS to your family, friends, or partner? On this episode, we help you learn the best ways to explain PCOS to others especially during the holidays!
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I’m telling your fellow sister and registered dietician, husband, engineer, MPCs, personal trainer. We’re going to make PCO as a little less overwhelming and a lot more fun. Hello? Hello sisters. Hello sisters. And welcome back. Another episode of the podcast today, a sister and a Mister, you guys obviously know that Brad felt the need to say the name to this episode that you’re listening to or to this podcast.
But thank you for joining today. We’re going to talk about how to explain PCs to others. You know, family members, perhaps your partner, friends, people of that nature. It’s a common subject, especially in the holidays. You know, people feel the need to ask you private questions, especially family, of course, they asking how you’re doing and everything,
but then they sometimes deep dive into your health, ask about PCOS or what’s going on with your weight. I mean, what do you think, baby? Like, what do you think’s going to happen? This like November, because November and December, I feel like are the prime time moment where everybody gets together for, for, you know, Christmas dinner or like,
just like, you know, holiday family gatherings. What do you think are gonna happen this year? But with Corona? No. No. I mean, just in general with like questions to you, like, I know you were getting a lot of questions last or maybe like two years ago. Cause it was the first time maybe you were with my family gatherings.
Yeah. Like, cause like we got married about, about a year and a half ago, but like we just like heavily got into the family gathering is just like two years ago. I would say we’re like, yeah, two or three, we were meeting all my family members. You know, like the Christmas dinners. You had some questions coming at you about gluten and dairy free.
Right. Cause everyone’s concerned, you know, what do they want? What can they make for me? What can I eat? You know, this is gluten-free I made it specifically for you. And then it has dairy in it. And you’re like, I don’t want to say anything. Yeah. That’s actually really funny that you mentioned that like my mom will always make like something gluten or dairy free for Tallinn.
And of course like it’s my mom, his mother-in-law making it for her. Like she obviously wants to eat it, but sometimes it has dairy or maybe perhaps it wasn’t made completely gluten-free, You know, any, any of those sticky situations can come up during the holidays. But especially with food, I’m just like really gracious about it and like, Oh thank you so much.
And I’ll have a bite. Like even if it has gluten or dairy, but then I don’t encourage everyone to do that. Sometimes it can have like immediate effects on you and you don’t want to be uncomfortable at someone else’s house. So just say thank you and you’ll have some later or something, but yeah, during the holidays, I mean, I think now when we see each other’s families,
I think it’s going to be a lot more relaxed cause everyone’s gotten used to my gluten and dairy lifestyle. And so it’s not as much pressure for them to make me something because they’ve realized that I’m really fine with anything. And like, I can bring my own side dish if I feel like it’s going to be concerning for me that I won’t find what I can eat at the dinner table,
but usually I can eat most of the foods cause it’s Armenian food. So I mean not all of them, but most of them and it’s enough to get through the night. So everyone’s pretty relaxed about it now. Yeah. And you were telling me your experience with your family, friends when you stayed there for summer or so. So one summer, me and my sister stayed with family friends,
and this was the summer where I had first started going gluten and dairy free, but I wasn’t really into it yet. I was still in like struggle city with my PCOS, really bad acne, really bad, you know, uncontrollable weight gain, like horrible moods and stuff. Like I just should not have been staying at someone’s house during this time in my life.
But we were there and I couldn’t explain PCO S properly because I didn’t know what was going on. And they were like noticing like what happened to her skin? Like how did she gain so much weight from the last time we saw her? Why is she only, only eating salad? How could she gain so much? She eats a salad. It must’ve Been so difficult for you to like trying to figure things out yet.
This people are being super judgy. Judgmental. Yeah. Yeah. I mean they didn’t know any better. Like they just, I didn’t say anything cause I didn’t know any better. And so they were just like, what’s with what’s wrong. Are you okay? And I was like, Oh my God, this is so embarrassing. It was just such a negative experience from my point of view because of what I was going through at the time.
But had I explained S to them and if I had known in the first place, it wouldn’t have been so bad. That’s why this episode is so important how to explain PCO S to loved ones to others. Exactly. Yep. So we’re gonna, we’re going to actually get into those tips to help you not be in that position that tie-in was, you know,
like, like that position where you feeling like you’re being judged, where you personally don’t know how to explain it yet. These people are making all these claims or seeing all these things about you. You’re feeling down, we’re going to help you today so that you’re never in that position. Or if you do end up in that position, which is not your fault,
you can, you can kind of get yourself out of it And not be uncomfortable. Yeah. I mean maybe do you want to actually first start with what you would say to explain it before we get to the tips of how so? Like what would you say straight off the bat? Let’s say I’m Joe Schmoe to like, what’s Pecos, what is that?
What is PCLs can you, what is that telling More? Realistically, honey, you’ve gained weight this year, honey gain week. This year what’s happening. They don’t even know yet PCOS. They start with that. Yeah. So what was your first response For me? And I’m not saying that everyone should respond this way, but I would respond saying,
you know what? I have this hormonal issue that I’m figuring out. Yeah. I may have gained a couple pounds, but I’m starting to reverse it. I’m starting to figure out what’s working for me and I’ve started going gluten and dairy free and I feel good. And I would start with that for some people you might not even want to dive into it and you might just be like
Like, it’s really up to you what you prefer, but I would, I would be a little bit forthcoming about it and stand up for what I’m going through and try not to be embarrassed. Yeah. And I like how you started off with that Coke, not like simple, but kind of like a, just here’s the overview of what it is.
So let’s just say, you said that and then I’m that person. And I go, what is that? What is this hormonal issue? Okay. So now this person’s like genuinely Interested details. Yeah. Not Like maybe embarrassed that they said something so rude your way. Yeah. Maybe they’re embarrassed and they’re like, what’s PCO S Oh. And then you can launch into it and be like,
you know, it’s this hormonal imbalance that affects my metabolism and it affects my hormones and it, it makes me gain weight more quickly than, you know, anyone else. And so I’m really trying to manage like insulin by eating low sugar foods. And by going gluten and dairy free, I’m trying to control my inflammation because that is really one of the major issues with women who have PSUs chronic inflammation.
So, you know, here are some of the things that I’m doing to treat that. And then now you have a conversation, you know? Oh, you know, I’ve been, you know, a gluten-free Oh, you know, I tried, gluten-free read the other day. And you know, I felt like this, about it. You know,
now they can have conversations with you about it. What the different things are that if you get defensive immediately, then they get uncomfortable. Cause like they didn’t know maybe, and maybe they came off rude in the first place and they shouldn’t have said you gained weight, but maybe that’s just how they are. Like, I don’t know, in our culture,
like it’s just normal to speak like that. You know what I mean? Like if you get offended immediately, it’s like, you know, you’re going to take this whole conversation down another road that it doesn’t need to, you can diffuse it with some confidence, some positivities forthcoming. I like that word. Forthcoming verbiage. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And th there,
there will always be like different ways to explain it. Like whichever way you’re comfortable with and like another way, just to like, you can phrase it as what’s peace, you, as you can be like piece EWIS is polycystic ovarian syndrome. It affects one in 10 women. Cause when you say one in 10 women, then that person’s going to know,
Oh, this is a big thing it’s affecting so many people, 10% of all women in the country. Right? So you see polycystic ovarian syndrome. It affects one in 10 women. It is a metabolic disorder that affects my hormones. And, and because of it, I have insulin resistance that causes so-and-so to happen. And I am right now going through a diet and lifestyle change to help figure out what’s going to be best for me.
And I’m actually seeing results or whatever the case, you know? And like really, again, keeping it word. You’re not blaming yourself as time mentioned where you’re not being defensive, as she mentioned. And you’re just explaining, not neutrally neutrally and without being offended, because like, I’m not going to like you, you should be offended if someone’s like,
have you gained weight? Because what root of it is that person I know family does this. Yeah, of course. So you just have to, the more you like stay neutral is the more that person will listen to you and you know, and understand that you’re actually very in control of yourself. Exactly. It shows a lot of maturity in my opinion,
to be able to respond calmly and unoffended So much. Yeah. So let’s get into the tips. So like the tips, the, the ins and outs of how to really explain how to feel and how to get through it so that you don’t feel embarrassed or you don’t feel like you haven’t, you weren’t able to explain it clearly. So that should have like,
maybe like, have you ever had that experience where you were having a conversation with someone and you felt like you didn’t explain something clearly kills you the next day. You’re like the next day you’re like, ah, I could have said it like this you’re the shower. You’re like, why didn’t I save this? Yeah. The perfect comeback.
say you want to see something funny or you want to say something like, to me, it’s always happened. It’s like, Oh, I should’ve said this joke at this moment. It would’ve made everybody crack up. Yeah. And I didn’t. So now I’m a failure. Okay. All right, baby. Why don’t you start? Okay. I want to start with the first tip.
Okay. I’m not trying to tell you how you, how to feel, but don’t be embarrassed. So we are lucky that we even know that we have PCLs and we’re not alone. Like Sidak said, one in 10 women have this. So less than half of us are diagnosed, who knows if the person you’re even talking to has PCOM, the likelihood of them having PCs is pretty high,
frankly. So what I’m saying is you’re not alone. It’s, you’re not like, it may feel like in the moment, you’re the only one in the room that has PCOS and is struggling like this. But you have to know that you’re not, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. And there are solutions out there. We talk about them all the time on this podcast.
So when you’re explaining it to someone, you know, if you realize you’re not this like black sheep, is that what they call it? I believe so. Like the sheep that’s completely different than everybody else. Yeah, exactly. Like you’re not an outsider. Yeah. So if you can wrap your head around that and you won’t feel as embarrassed when you’re put on the spot at the dinner table on Thanksgiving,
they’re like talking about your symptoms. That statistic one in 10 is in us, in other countries. It’s actually one in five, like in many other countries. So it’s very common. And just going off of that, not being embarrassed is also to, to know that you are in complete control. You get to decide exactly what you want to share and what you’re comfortable sharing.
So don’t feel, yeah. Don’t feel the pressure to share more than you want to, or perhaps don’t feel like you’re not sharing enough or any of that. Like, you’re in full control of how you want to explain this to whoever you’re talking to. So just always know that sister you’re in control, don’t get embarrassed and just say what you feel is best to say in that situation.
Exactly. The second tip, don’t be thrown off by their assumptions. So just because we’ve gained weight, you know, does it mean that we’re lazy? You know, that phrase like that I’ve posted a lot. PCOS is not a lazy fat girl condition just because they assume that don’t, you know, lose it all of us. You know what I mean?
Keep it cool. You know, it’s not like that. If they do Say that plantation right now, You’re a lazy fat girl. Oh yeah. It’s a metabolic Shorter actually, it’s actually a hormonal imbalance that’s causing me to be like this. Do you know what insulin resistance is? No, I don’t. Can you tell me? Oh yeah. Well,
this is what hit them back with. So hidden back with the science girlfriends, right? If, if they’re going to say something that is basically like an uneducated person would say, Oh, you’re just gaining weight because you’re fat and lazy. Like that is horrible to say to someone, that person is uneducated. So educating with some science, obviously like don’t get into it.
Like don’t waste your time explaining to people, the science, if they’re just being mean and let that go. But if they’re genuinely Like that, they’re just like so relaxed with the way they’re talking. Cause your family. And they’re just saying whatever they want. Yeah. Yeah. And it’s, again, it’s important. Don’t, don’t, don’t get defensive,
stay neutral and try to explain it if they’re trying, if they’re trying to say things like that. Yeah. Until PCO S is more widely known and common to talk about at the dinner table, then we have to hold our heads high and be heads Hyatt and be in Basadur is for ourselves. It’s just not well-known enough for people to, you know,
take one step back and not say anything. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if they hadn’t, if they still don’t know what piece,
but like, you know, unfortunately it’s not in my major. Yeah. It’d be on TV shows. Oh, it was on that one TV show. Good morning, America. We saw. Yeah. They were talking about Leah Michelle. Oh Damisha yeah. And then they had like a doctor on to talk about it, which is great. Actually.
She was actually a good doc. Great doctor talking about diet and lifestyle. They also talk about PCOS on that show called this is us. Yeah. There’s an, I’ve talked about this on Instagram stories once about how one of the characters in the show has PCOS and she’s going through and fertility problems and the doctor tells her to lose weight or else she won’t do IVF.
And it’s just, Oh my gosh. It was so it was just like really not my flavor of like the PCO S approach, but it was on TV at least. I don’t know what to say. Yeah. Okay. Well at least, at least it’s a little bit more on TV. Hopefully we can get it to be more positive and more like just educational encouragement.
Yep. All right. Next tip. Third tip. Understand PCO yourself. So you can explain it when they ask what it is and why you’re gluten and dairy free. And I put together like a little spiel of like what I would say if somebody asked me what it was. So this is what I would say. Get your notes three, get your notes.
Sister PCLs is a hormonal disorder that affects every system in my body from Tablas to skin, to my hair and reach it. Research shows that the first line treatment PCs should be dyed in lifestyle changes. Of course that’s great for anyone. But specifically with PCLs is important for me to consume anti-inflammatory foods and manage my stress and exercise in ways that don’t overtax my hormones right now,
I’m trying gluten and dairy free to see if it’s going to help reduce some of the inflammation and blood sugar issues that affect my hormones. That has a lot of meat in there. Now they can ask you a question. Now we can have a conversation. Now it won’t be as judgmental. Yeah, Exactly. And it basically goes over everything that it’s like relative to that conversation.
Yeah. And I especially put in that sentence of, of course, you know, diet and lifestyle change is great for anyone, but specifically with PCO S it’s important for me to eat an anti-inflammatory diet because it’s an inflammatory syndrome. So then now they realize it’s yeah. And then a further on, they want more details. That’s a good thing. Okay.
Now we can go into gluten. Does this dairy does that? And if they don’t want those details, they’re going to just stare at you. And then you can just smile back and then be happy, be happy and grateful that at least, you know, what’s happening and you got You’re in control of the conversation End of the day. If they know,
if they understand and you help them learn, it only helps you more because now you have the confidence that you know yourself and you’re able to help others explain. But if they don’t learn, that’s okay. Cause you still vote and you’re still making huge strides and learning and managing your You’re empowered. Exactly. Exactly. All right. Next one. The fourth tip.
So PCLs doesn’t mean you are any less of a woman. So this is really important because you might feel defeated when you’re talking about it. You might, you might, you know, explain pieces, but deep down you’re like, eh, like all my symptoms, like facial hair, acne, I don’t feel feminine my weight, this and that. But these are all physical things.
Like you are still a woman. Like you don’t have to allow it to consume you like that, just because you’re struggling with facial hair, your hair is falling. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman. So fill your soul up with resilience and put yourself first. There’s a lot of struggles that comes with PCs. It’s a lifelong condition. It requires a lot of attention,
a lot more than other people would give their bodies, but it makes for an excellent self care routine that others may admire from you and learn from you. And, you know, for example me, like you’re learning from my self-care routine. Yeah. And so it’s, it’s actually good for you and it makes you really notice your body more. How do you explain,
am I explaining this correctly? I really like to explain That it makes you take care of yourself more just because you have these symptoms doesn’t mean you’re any less of a woman. Absolutely. And also like we talked about in the past, like we’ve, we’ve received messages. Like, you know, I feel like peace shows is a blessing. Cause it helps me learn and how to control my body and like this,
this applies to like everybody else in the world, because there are people who may be unhealthy or, you know, maybe they’ve gained some way, but they don’t know the reason because they don’t really care about their health. They’re not trying to look down to the root causes of their own health. But when it comes to PCO is no. If you’re an advocate for yourself,
you’re constantly searching for the answers. You’re constantly listening to podcasts like this, listening to Italian self care list and like incorporating them yourselves, feeling better improving. And you’re learning, what’s working for your body. And then there are people without PCs who don’t go through any of this, they don’t try to find out why they’re having certain things and why they just go to the doctor.
And the doctor gives them a medication for, I don’t know, blood pressure or cholesterol, whereas maybe diet and lifestyle could have really helped in that too. Like it’s like, you’re really, in my opinion, like strengthening your own, your own body by just learning and like advocating for yourself. Yeah. It’s so true. You’re advocating for yourself and that’s going to reflect in the conversation with this person and they’re going to want to learn from you,
even though what you’re doing is specific to PCs. Maybe they know somebody that can benefit from it, or maybe they can too. And they’ll be more interested because you are really embracing yourself and you’re, you’re redefining what, it’s, what it feels like to be a woman. And you’re saying, no, you know what? Like, so what if I have facial hair,
acne, whatever that doesn’t make me a woman. Yeah. These, my confidence, my personality, my character makes me a woman. You’re reflecting that in that conversation with that person, That’s a good thing. You started right there. And like, you know, obviously I don’t, this comparison is not exactly the one with PCs, but for me and my brothers,
my brothers will sometimes look at me and be like, man, what do I do to like, get healthy? Like you, and like, just do like, look at your body. Or like, look at your situation. Like, what are you not happy with? What do you want to improve? And then investigate, you know? And like,
they don’t think that way. They think that they’ll, they’ll make they’ll joke with me. Like, Oh, you’re so healthy. You won’t even do this or that. No. I’ve just figured out what I feel is right for my body with like, you know, things I want to avoid. And there’s other things that I do that may not be right for other people.
You know, it’s just about finding that synergy, that balance. Yeah. Yeah. I know that one of your brothers does like aerobic exercise in the morning, which isn’t your vibe, but is it like gets him pumped for the day and that makes him feel good. And you know, you can have a conversation about it instead of being judgemental towards each other.
Yeah. You know, each of you have your own thing that works for you yourself. So, And does it make me less of a man or him less of a man, if he’s going to do aerobatics in the morning, you can do Arabic and I can do yoga and we’re both met. I don’t know. Alrighty. Okay. The last one,
the last tip we have being positive. Think of it this way. Be grateful that you are taking care of your health and taking your health into your own hands sooner than later, because you’re preventing future problems that you might face. And that other people might face, regardless of having PCOS, like high blood pressure, you know, all of these things that come up because one symptoms not managed and it leads to the other symptom to the other symptom and the other symptom you’re managing it from the root of the issue.
Cause PSUs is just screaming at you, but then there’s other people who don’t even realize that they might have chronic inflammation or things happening underneath it all. They don’t even realize it. And then they’re 40, 50 years old and they’re like, Oh, let my heart is this quad arteries, whatever. Like they just had no idea what was building up over time.
And I should have sent my speech for this tip right here. Well, we can meld it together. Sure. But yeah. And I exactly what time at what time sane, obviously I’m not gonna disagree. Right. I disagree on this podcast with, you know, I completely agree. And like, just to add to that, you also want to be kind to yourself,
like of course, like be positive because you’re doing such a big thing with like preventing future problems with your health and be kind to yourself to like, like, if you, for example, explain it wrong. One time to somebody and you feel frustrated, like be positive. Like you try to change, you try to help other people see, or at least help other people be in your shoes.
And if you explain the wrong one time, that’s totally okay to be kind and learn from that experience. And the next time you explain to somebody else, you know how to better do it and like, yeah. Yeah. I like that approach less pressure because sometimes you feel like you’re really on the spot when you’re in public explaining PCLs and it’s this whole personal thing,
and you don’t want to get into too much detail. You can like fumble over your words and kind of just like, eh, like fall down the stairs. Like, you know, I feel like I do that sometimes, but like your mouth falls down the stairs, you just like, don’t know what you’re saying and stuff. But yeah, if you,
if you envelop yourself with all these positive vibes and empower yourself with educating yourself about PCOS, then talking about it during the holidays with loved ones will be so much easier. Yeah. And just the golf of that too, is those are all the tips, but I have some couple of like minor tips I want to throw in there. One is making a list of all the people you want to explain us to all these,
see this wouldn’t mean like every single person in your family that you can see at a family gathering, but more like who are the most important people in your life that you want to explain this to, or you feel like you should explain to make a list of those people. And it doesn’t mean you have to explain to all those people at once or like every single day,
you have to go one by one. But now you have a list of people you feel like you want to explain to, you can go down that list as you feel comfortable. And it really helps to like envision what you’re going to say to these people. As you’re writing down this list and just helps organize your mental thoughts in your head. So you don’t feel overwhelmed the anxiety around Explaining it.
And also you can select the people who you feel will be most supportive towards you. And it’s really a benefit towards you because let’s say it’s one of the people on the list is your sister or your close cousin or something. Then you know, their reaction will be positive. You know? And it’s kind of exciting because now you have a supportive person in your life and they know about it and you know,
they can kind of get involved a little bit because they care about you and they’re supportive. So I know A hundred percent and I also want to mention is remove distractions. So if you’re going to go on, go into like explaining, talking to a person that says, you probably think it’s going to be like a 15, 20 minute conversation. Well,
try to do it in a, in a place environment where you won’t be distracted. For example, being interrupted by maybe other, other family members, or maybe you’re out in like a public setting and people might like bump into you or might talk to you or, or something like avoid those distractions. The reason why is, as you’re explaining you don’t want to be interrupted and like restart your sentence.
Or maybe you’re getting emotional and you don’t want to be like in a, in a setting where you’re uncomfortable. So just like try to removing, try to remove those distractions where you can talk clearly for long period of time and be fully comfortable. I like that. Yeah. And then the last one I had was expecting a response. So the, there are two sides of explaining piece us or anything that one part is you explaining.
And the second part is them responding. You have to be ready for both because it’s easy, not easy, but you can prepare to explain, you know, you can practice, but the part you can’t prepare for is a response. Cause everyone’s response will be different. So my point is to just expect a response, either a good or bad, you know,
it might be a response, like what, what are you talking about? Like, it might be negative. We’ll expect that to happen. Yeah, exactly. Expect, expect the worst or it could be. Yeah. Or the opposite. It could be someone who’s fully supportive. Who’s super positive. Who’s actually gonna like sit down with you and really talk to you about this.
Expect the best. So expecting both sides will really help you feel more comfortable when that situation comes. So you’re not surprised. Right. And if you’re confident about PCO and what you’re going to say, then you won’t even care what their reaction is. Exactly. You know, good or bad. Yep. Alrighty. So those are all the tips. But before we move on,
there was a question from the peace shows hotline that is very related to this topic. I want to read it right now. Quick thing, if you don’t know, we have the hotline in the piece, us weight-loss hotline. All you have to do is call one eight, three, three, ask PCO S a S K
you can leave a voicemail, leave your message for us, and we’ll play it on this podcast and answer it. Or you can actually leave a text message as well. And the text message that I selected for today’s podcast is related to this. And the person asked how soon should I explain to someone I’m dating about my piece, us the first date question Mark.
She says, Oh, that’s a great question. When she first explained babe, how it happened for us. So our first date, So I, what did I say? Did I see PCLs or did I just gluten and dairy free? Yeah. From the first day, what I remember is you mentioned like we, when we sat down and were like,
looking over the menu, you mentioned, Oh, like I’m on a gluten dairy free diet. Which actually, I mean, this is just luck, but we, it piqued my interest because I, before I met Tallinn, I was really into like the science behind going gluten free. I had nothing to do with PCOS. I was just into the science because of some other podcasts.
I listened to Joe Rogan experience and dr. Rhonda, Patrick, and like, I was really involved by this. So when she said this, I was like, Whoa, really? What, why are you gluten, dairy free? And I don’t really, honestly, I don’t remember the specific things you said, but what do you remember? I remember telling you that I was gluten and dairy free.
And then I remember being really like, okay, but it’s not a big deal. Like I can eat most things. Don’t worry. This restaurant works, whatever. Like I try to downplay it a little bit. And then you ordered me a gluten-free bud catcher that came in a golden pineapple, because those were like really in style back then. Yeah.
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But yeah, I got Italian cause she told me to show her she was gluten free. So I spoke to the bartender and she brought out like a very cool golden pineapple cup with like tequila inside or something. Yeah. Yeah. No, no. It was a gluten-free vodka. Okay. Yeah, yeah, no, I remember. Yeah. So you were pretty chill about it when I explained it to you on the first stage of the gluten dairy free part.
And then as things got a little more serious, I was like, Oh, you know, this hormonal imbalance that I’m dealing with, that’s why I have this diet change. And I explained it to you and you understood. And it really, I didn’t, I didn’t make it sound so awful because I remember when I was diagnosed, it was very awful and it was very confusing.
And I was going through this whole process of figuring it out. By the time I met you, I had already figured it out. And I was like, good. I was pretty, you know, in control except for my workouts. I have to teach you later on. That was fine. But I didn’t tell it to you in a super negative way.
And I think that’s important because when you say it very negatively, this person might feel like just, they might be confused. They don’t know how to help you beats first time they’re hearing about it. You’re explaining it in a really negative way, which is they should con console you if they’re meant to be with you. Of course. But also like,
I like to approach it positively so that they can see how strong I can be. And there are going to be days where you’re not strong and where we’re falling apart, acne and hair fall and all of these horrible symptoms, but either way they should be supportive. Yeah. I don’t know. Maybe my response was confusing A little bit, but it’s okay.
Whether You say it negatively, they should be supportive, but I prefer seeing it positively because it’s fun. Like you will be able to reverse it. Yeah, yeah, Yeah. And you don’t want their first impression of peace us to be a negative impression. Right. If you bring it up in a positive, then at least the first impression they had of peace yours was that it was a positive message at least to them.
So like, like Tallinn, his approach was first telling me about her diet and lifestyle and saying, Oh, you know, I’m on a gluten free diet because that’s what really works for me. And that was enough for me at that moment to be like, Oh, okay. I totally understand. And then I knew my head, we would talk about this later.
Right. So it was great. Start to the conversation. And then the second day, I think we talked more about it. And I think we talked about on the phone as we like got more and more close together. Yeah. And, and then like, you really, like, you never scared me with like your condition. Meaning like you were never like,
Oh, Victimizing myself. That’s what I’m trying to say. Yeah. Because obviously like many of you sisters, like obviously it’s easy to feel victimized because it’s not your fault. Like you’re you have a condition that’s hormonal metabolic. It’s a metabolic disorder. So it’s obviously not your fault. But when you, you know, make it a negative message to the person you’re dating,
then you’re the immediately they have a negative connotation of you and your condition. I like the way you just explained that. Thank you. I hope, I hope that was clear. And I hope scissors. If you’re dating someone, you have a better approach when you’re, when you’re going to explain, just, just remember, try to keep it positive and don’t try to say everything all at once.
Keep it simple. Keep, put, okay. Ask the questions if they’re into it, they’re into it. If they’re not, you’ll find out and see if they’re the right person for you. Yeah, exactly. All right. So we didn’t DMS. Like we always do, which is we do like a poll about this, about the episode’s topic.
So what do we ask this time? Maybe. So we did a poll this time and a sticker. The first the poll says was the question was, are you feeling anxious about explaining your gluten and dairy free lifestyle to people during the holidays? 70% said yes. And 26% said no. So then I asked, how are you going to go about explaining it or not explaining it?
So we had some great responses. 11 Barry 11 says, I am not going to explain anything. It just makes me feel good. Amen. Fine. That’s that’s a great way to look at it. You don’t have to explain anything again. It’s up to you. What you want to explain and what you don’t want to explain. You’re in control.
The next one, mrs. CJ Rosen wrote Rosato I’m just doing, what’s going to make me feel better when I wake up tomorrow morning. I like that one. Yeah. I’m just going to do this lifestyle because I want to wake up good morning. Well, that person to swim makes me feel good when I wake up the next day. That’s that’s it.
Okay. Cassandra, do you want to read this one? Sure. Cassandra. She says, I’m just going to make my own food. That’s it? I mean, if you, if you’re in a situation where there’s, there’s like all these foods that maybe not, not right for you and you don’t want to go through the whole effect of, Oh,
I can’t eat that because you have to explain it. Just bring your own food, make your own food. That way you don’t have to like explain to anybody what you’re eating away. You’re not. Yeah. Nacho says I am unsupported in my gluten-free weight loss journey and I met with lapse. So I’m not going to explain anything. Oh, I’m sorry to hear that Don’t ever let those people make you feel that.
I know it’s easy to let, let people like that put you down, but they’re honestly like bullies. If they’re going to laugh at you, No rude. You should pull out your phone and go on the sisterhood and just scroll through all the lovely comments in the private Facebook group and realize that there’s thousands of people for you and not laughing. Absolutely.
Alrighty. My close family knows I have PCs and they’re joining my gluten and dairy free journey. I love that my mom did. Yeah. And she saw a lot of benefits. She was saying like, how was it helped her skin and all. And like when she w when she goes back to the dairy or gluten is flooded. Yeah. Really good stuff.
That’s great. All right. So I guess those were the DMS we did. We mentioned the poll. Now we’re going to go to the winner of the Week. Our favorite parts, if you’re New to our podcast, the wind of the week is usually where we highlighted sister either on Instagram or on the sisterhood that is taking steps with her piece. Us,
obviously it doesn’t always mean weight loss. It can mean anything else. It can mean improving her symptoms or just taking that first step in managing her piece. Yes, exactly. So our first winner is Laura beachy. She says I was dairy free for a year. And this helps with all my piece. You have symptoms and bloating. Then when I cut out all the gluten out,
after discovering the sisterhood, I instantly, and I meet instantly in capital words, dropped several pounds and I’m talking fat, not just bloat going gluten free has honestly been the biggest game changer in my life. And in my internal battle with the weight, my period pain also reduced as a result. And I am far less hungry during the day. Good luck.
She says to someone and stay positive. Oh, that is, so this one is from the sisterhood, right. It looks like amazing, great job, Laura. And I mean, talking about the instantly part, you know, like sometimes like your body is going, going through that state of inflammation constantly day after day from the gluten. And when you just go gluten free,
it’s almost like, like, Woo, like a, body’s like clean almost. And like The water weight, you lose a lot of water water, which is still good. And then you also, your insulin is lower lowered so much so that you’re not as bloated. You’re not holding onto the things that you’re eating as much. You’re burning them up for energy.
You know, it can really help with your metabolic health and you can see such great results. A lot of sisters have seen great results with this. Yeah. Great job, Laura. We’re all here for you, right? Why don’t we do the next one over? Sure. Shira. She says, she DMD me. She said, Hey, sister wanted to provide a quick update.
I started this gluten free dairy free journey on the 1st of October. So it has been just 10 days, but I have already lost over three pounds, which I think is a good, healthy sign or healthy weight loss more than the weight. This is the first time in my life that I don’t feel like I’m on a diet. I am figuring out substitutes and overall been happy with what I’m eating.
I don’t have this overpowering feeling that I have to be eating only steamed vegetables or being unhappy about what I’m eating. I am thankful to you to bring your learnings to us. The entire journey is so overwhelming and having this whole crew supporting you and cheering you on really helps. Oh my God. Love that. Good. And you know, the, the part where she says,
I don’t have this overpowering feeling that I have to be eating only steamed veggies or unhappy about what I’m eating, basically what I’m doing. Amen. Because the best changes come from the, from the consistent diet and lifestyle change that you’re happy with. That brings you that those sustainable results, not like eating only broccoli for whatever to lose, like, you know,
unhealthy weight, you know, basically like you’re in a healthy way, losing weight sustainably. You know, we recommend one to two pounds a week. That’s through consistent consistently. Yeah. And you’re enjoying it at the same time and you’re going to stick to it cause you like it. And you’re not just eating green beans and dried chicken breasts. Awesome.
Great, good job. All right. Oh, another fun episode. Yeah. What should we say anything? Well, I guess that’s it. I don’t have any updates right now. Okay. I can’t, do we have any app? I don’t have any the is not, You know, nothing crazy is happening there. Yeah. Any bugs all flew away.
They’ll have to ladybug colonization that I have started in my farms. They flown away. I’m hoping they laid some eggs, but we’ll see. I think I’m gonna have to get another army in stay tuned. Sisters, stay tuned for more ladybug updates on our garden. All right. So make sure you subscribe to our podcast and leave a review. If you enjoy this episode and we’ll be back with another one next week to,
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